Conflict

TFL Life Skills Class- Conflict Is Like An Iceberg

CONFLICT…

is like an iceberg,

often we only see the ANGER and BLAME that follow,

the smallest portion of the iceberg.

These two emotions are usually the most visible elements in conflict.

Most often the picture can be much more complicated.

As emotions and behaviors become more heated, conflicts can become more intense. 

Here are some key points we discussed in one of our life skill classes:

  • In conflict, we don’t necessarily oppose the other person.  Rather, we oppose something that was said or done and then have an emotional reaction to it.
  • Our emotional reactions are ours; only we can own them and only we deal with them.
  • We have the power to deal with our emotions and behaviors in a conflict.
  • We have the power to get control of our emotions before a conflict escalates.

Once we understand what the underlying feelings are that led to the conflict we can work towards resolving it in a constructive manner.  –Kristin TFL Program Director

Hike

TechieForLife Student’s Experience With The Chuckwalla Trail Hike

 

A TechieForLife student’s experience with the Chuchwalla trail hike:

At the beginning of enrolling to TFL, I thought I would like to hike.

Months later, I didn’t like it because some terrains are too high for me that require an old rope to hold on, or to climb; wrong clothing to wear, especially anything made out of cotton; and careless people who forgot to remind everyone to apply sunscreen.

But the Chuckwalla was a fine hike. There some huge steps, but I went over them.

At the end, we see a whole view of a neighborhood.

While I was going back, I saw Cam and Dallin trying to climb up a boulder with no equipment. It made me cringe when they did that because they’re close to a cliff.

I’ve already been to this trail last year, but it was worth it. -Dave TFL student

Mentors connecting with students

Mentoring Moments- Connecting And Being There For Each Other

We’ve had some great connecting moments these last couple weeks.

All of our students deal with different things, and the greatest thing about mentoring here at TechieForLife (TFL) is that most of the students are able to open up to the mentors about their challenges.

We really start seeing progress as students share their individual personal loads.

For example, one of our students deals with anxiety quite a bit. He’s been really open with the mentors, and we’ve had some success showing him that as a whole, the students and staff here at TFL are committed to consistently and dependably being there for each other.

As a mentor I’ve really enjoyed one on one conversations about progress and needs for improvement with students over dinner or lunch.

I think this provides a great opportunity for us to get away from the program for a minute and just talk in a relaxed, informal environment. –Cambron TFL Mentor

New Student

Welcome To Our New Student Joseph From California!

TechieForLife welcomes our new student…

From California,

Joseph,

graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Computer Information Systems and a minor in Game Development.

He hopes to one day be a game designer.

He is passionate about:

  • Music
  • Politics (he has sparked many a lively, yet civil discussion)
  • Pho (Vietnamese noodle soup)

Gaming is his big hobby and while World of Warcraft is his all-time favorite, Joseph is really into Overwatch and Heros of the Storm, lately.

When asked about coming to TFL Joseph said, “I like it and feel comfortable here.”

Joseph has a kind heart and a great sense of humor!

We’re glad to have him apart of our TFL family. —Debbie, TFL Admissions Director

Activity exercising

Exercise/Activity Committee Keeping Up the Fun

The student committee that I work with is the exercise and activity committee.

Lee and Wesley are on this committee, and have been doing a good job of keeping up on their assignments.

Their job is to make sure that we have activities planned every Saturday.

Each month they plan two activities that can be physically exerting, such as a hike, or rappelling.

They also plan two activities that are more geared toward just something that is fun, such as laser tag, or miniature golf.

They coordinate with all the students’ interests and plan the activities.

All I do is help them when they need it.

We’ve been enjoying regular activities that have been both fun and challenging, and the students are doing a great job of planning them. —Cam, TFL Mentor

Rappelling With Cam

Rappelling With Our TechieForLife Mentor Cam

We were able to go rappelling this week with Cam.

It was a little warm outside, but I had a lot of fun and really started feeling like I was getting better at it.

It was fun cheering on the others trying it for the first time, or even the ones who were more used to it.

I look forward to trying more challenging cliffs. – Amber, TFL Student