Enjoying Relationships

Relationships…One Of The Most Rewarding Parts Of Working In The Environment Here At TFL

One of the most rewarding parts of working in this environment is being able to build real, meaningful relationships with our students.

We are all “equals but with different responsibilities” (and age as they remind me often).

We get to interact like a real family to practice relationship skills.

That means butting heads a little, getting our feelings hurt and having real conflicts.

But those things are balanced by the growth, connection and enjoyment that comes from attachment in our relationships.

Success and appreciation from resolving conflicts and seeing the hard times through to the good times makes it all worth it.

I want to share some of my favorite times lately:

  • Dave cracking a really dry joke
  • Teasing Dylan so strait faced that it takes him a minute to smile.
  • Amber’s proud face as she presents a finished design.
  • Eric walking slowly by my door hoping I’ll call him in to chat.
  • Lee calling to say he got his first job ever.
  • Watching Dallin coming back from college tired and looking accomplished.
  • Seeing Carlos sitting with feedback and saying, “I want to get better at that”.
  • Joseph half-trying to act cold and indifferent as he supports another student who struggles.
  • Kyler sharing something on the web to make everyone laugh.

These show some of their best sides, their redeeming qualities.

We get to experience these along with the hard stuff.

We know that parents and grandparents are missing out on it, but only temporarily.

To our student’s families and sponsors I would say that these young adults are at TFL to become who they are meant to be so that they can come back to you better.

But while they are here they will be cherished as long as we have the privilege to do so.

-Jason, TFL Executive Director

Mentors connecting with students

Mentoring Moments- Connecting And Being There For Each Other

We’ve had some great connecting moments these last couple weeks.

All of our students deal with different things, and the greatest thing about mentoring here at TechieForLife (TFL) is that most of the students are able to open up to the mentors about their challenges.

We really start seeing progress as students share their individual personal loads.

For example, one of our students deals with anxiety quite a bit. He’s been really open with the mentors, and we’ve had some success showing him that as a whole, the students and staff here at TFL are committed to consistently and dependably being there for each other.

As a mentor I’ve really enjoyed one on one conversations about progress and needs for improvement with students over dinner or lunch.

I think this provides a great opportunity for us to get away from the program for a minute and just talk in a relaxed, informal environment. –Cambron TFL Mentor